Obviously there are any number of reasons why teenagers become sexually active. But for the 8 girls I interviewed, one reason was very clear.
Each one of these 8 girls I talked to had a baby and each one, without exception, said two things having to do with how they saw themselves as individuals:
1.
"I thought the baby I was going to have would give me the love and attention I never got at home. Later I found out that I was the one who had to give all the love and attention and it was hard."
2.
"I thought my boyfriend loved me for me. But later I found out that this wasn't true either.
SEVEN of the eight girls didn't even know where their boyfriends were at.
If you understand what sex is really all about,
you'll know just how far off base these girls were.
Sex is the highest form of expression of love a man and women can show for each other. In spite of what society may want you to believe, it is the kind of expression that takes commitment. And, it is the kind of commitment that takes
MARRIAGE.
Yeah, I know.
Marriage!!! Come on man, that’s old school!!!
This is the 21st century.
People don’t wait to get married
before having sex!”Well,
fact is you’d be surprised as to
how many teenagers are bringing back
“ old school”
when it come to having sex.
It all comes down to respect;
respect for one self.Truth is,
marriage is a commitment.
When you get married, what you're saying is this:
"Out of all the people in the world, you are the one person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
I love you that much.
And I want to express to you in the HIGHEST FORM POSSIBLE just how much I love you.
Hugging won't do it,
kissing won't do it,
holding hands won't do it.
I want to express this love to you the best way possible.
Sex is that expression of this love. From this expression of love, a child is born. A child born out of love.
For the 8 girls interviewed, sex was not a committed expression of love,
but rather a temporary fix for the lack of affection they weren't receiving in their life.
In interviewing boys on this subject, the reasoning was different. According to some,
"sex makes you a "man".
Yeah, that's right, makes you a man.
Well, I got news for all those "men" out there:
If sex is what makes you a "man",
then you must be a pretty shallow man.
Let's tell it like it is here:
Sex out of commitment is a process of using people:
using a women, for example, to prove ones manhood,
or using a man, for among other reason, to fulfill a void that has been left in ones life.
No matter how you look at it,
people are being used.
So, should you wait for the commitment of marriage before you have sex? I guess it all depends on how you look at it.
If feeling good knowing that the person making love to you is committed to you as a person and not a body,
if self respect has any place in your life,
and if a total commitment and respect for the child you may bring into this world means anything to you
then yes, I would definitely say it would be a good idea to wait.
But like everything else, you choose to do what you do in life.
But always remember this;
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