Are you any good at doing this?

Are you any good at being able to separate the problems you may have at home,

from the goals you must,

or want

to achieve in life?

Goals like getting a good education,

being a good athlete,

being the best at playing an instrument

or whatever?

I hope so because the fact of the matter is simple:

The more "family problem luggage" you carry with you into
your daily life,

luggage like parents divorce, abuse, neglect or whatever,

the more you increase the odds of not accomplishing the goals you set out to achieve in life.

WHY?

SIMPLE.

The answer can be found in an old Chinese proverb.

It goes like this:

A MAN WHO TRIES TO CATCH TWO RABBITS
AT THE SAME TIME,

WILL CATCH NEITHER ONE.

In other words,

in order for you to catch two rabbits, you must first concentrate

on one,

catch it,

and then move onto the next.

But you certainly won't catch both
at the same time.

Your goals in life, whatever they may be, are one rabbit.

Your worrying about your family problems is another.

In the process of fulfilling your goals in life, the "family rabbit" is going to run across your path tempting you in every way it can to chase it.

Take your focus off the goals you're working on and start chasing the "family rabbit",

and

you are not going to catch either one.

For example, if I am depressed over my parents divorce and am constantly thinking about it,

maybe even feeling guilty about it,

it would be really hard for me to concentrate on my school work.

Not being able to concentrate on my school work will cause me to mess up and probably fail.

So what happened?

In the process of worrying about what's going on at home,

not only didn't I improve anything at home, but I messed up my education as well.

You chased two rabbits and lost both.

And in the future when you want to further your education or want to get a good job, people are not going to ask you about your family problems,

they're gonna ask you about your education.

Same thing applies to other activities such as being an athlete.

For those who want to play college ball for example, the scouts are not going to say,

"show me your family problems".

They're gonna say:

"show me your skills"

THE LAW OF SEPARATION

applies to anything
you may dream about accomplishing in your life.

Respect your family,

deal with your family problems the best way you know how,

and once you've done everything you can do to get them resolved,

then let go,

and move on with your life.

You've got a life to lead and challenges to overcome. You don't need to be carrying anymore "luggage" then you really have to.

 

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