Some people do strange things to get others to like them.

From doing drugs to joining gangs;

from bulling people to drinking booze.

The feeling we all have to be

somebody to someone

causes some people

to do some pretty stupid things.

But if the truth be known,

doing dumb things to

get people to notice you is

a waste of time.

Fact is, you don't have to do

"nothing for nobody"

to get people to like you.

Agree or disagree, that's just the way it is.

Let me explain.

Everyone was born within them what is called a

NATURAL IDENTITY.

It is something everyone has; no one is exempt.

These IDENTITY TRAITS we all have define

who we are as people.

These traits can include any of the following:

You're a person …

• who has a good sense of humor, You can make people laugh.
• who has compassion for other people, and you're not afraid to show it no matter who it's for.
• who is "cool" under pressure. You take things in stride no matter how serious the situation may be.
• who isn't afraid to stand up for what is right no matter what others may think and no matter what the consequences may be.
• who is easygoing, laid-back. People can mess around with you, and you don't take it personally.
• who is loyal. You're there for friends or relatives when they really need you.
• who never quits. You're a tough person. No matter how many times you "get knocked down" in life from family problems, personal problems, or problems with friends, you keep "getting up."
• who treats others with respect. You're not the kind of person who puts people down or talks about them behind their back.
• who is independent. You're not led around by your friends, but rather you think for yourself. You're also a person who can get along fine by just hanging out with yourself. It's the kind of confidence others see and admire.
• who has strong conviction in what you believe in. Whether it be religion, values, social issues, whatever, you stick to your views no matter what other people may think.
• who has good leadership skills. When things get tough, people look to you for leadership as to what to do. You're the kind of person people can turn to for answers in tough situations. You think for yourself and don't allow others to influence your decisions.

It is these kinds of traits that draw people to you

WHEN YOU USE THEM.

Simple as that.

But in lies the problem with some people.

There are those who have no confidence

in who they are and don't feel they

are good enough to be accepted by anyone.

So they never use the natural IDENTITY TRAITS they already have. All their lives they have been told by people around them that they are no good so they simply put away the natural traits they have and substitute them with something
else.

Incredible!

Look folks, the bottom line is simple here:

you can decorate the outside of your

body all you want to impress people,

smoke your dope,

drink your booze,

be obessive with your looks,

join a gang,

but when you get right down to it,

knowing and having RESPECT for

who you are is what makes you

somebody to somebody.

BOTTOM LINE!

Any other method used to get people

to like you will usually end up in failure.

 

To put it another way;

IF YOUR FRIENDS
DON’T RESPECT YOU FIRST
FOR WHO YOU ARE,

CHANCES ARE GOOD
THEY ARE EITHER GOING TO

USE YOU

OR

LOSE YOU.

If you don’t believe it now,
believe it when you see it.

Just telling it like it is, folks.

 

WHAT IT MEANS TO RESPECT YOURSELF

Once you’ve discovered the kinds of traits
that make you who you are,
you now need to take one more step forward.

You now need to understand
what it means to RESPECT those characteristics.

After all, it is one thing to know who you are,
and still another to like and respect who that person is.

Try the following and see how much respect
you really have for yourself:

Think of a person in your life
you truly admire or love.

This is a person you really look up to.

Got it?

Now answer this question:

How do you go about showing respect for
this person you admire so much?

What kinds of things do you do?

Well, if you're like most other people,

you would never put this person down.

If this person had a problem,
you would be there
for him/her.

You wouldn't do anything to hurt
this person either mentally or physically.

If this person needed to have something
that would help better his/her life,
you would do what you could to get it.

You would accept this person
as he/she is.

If this person did something to
unintentionally hurt you,
you would have no trouble
forgiving him/her.

And

you wouldn't care what
other people thought about this person.

You know how much you like him/her,
and that's all that matters.

This is what it means
to have respect for others,
especially for someone you admire so much.

This is also what it means
to have respect for yourself.

Go back and look at the list again.

You should be doing for yourself
what you would do for those people
you have the utmost respect for.

After all,

should you not have the same admiration
for yourself as you do for anyone else?

Aren't your characteristics
worthy of your respect?

Go back again to the previous page.

How many of those things do you do
for yourself?

How many of them don't you do,

but should?

 

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