Also read the ebook
from our ebook library
can be devastating
if you don't understand what causes it
you can do to change it.
there are a number of reasons why people get severely depressed,
main reasons stand out:
first has to do with what is called
a chemical imbalance in the brain.
IS NOT UNCOMMON.
like a serious change in sleeping habits, constant sadness, or crying
for no reason
be signs of depression caused by a chemical imbalance.
you experience any of the above symptoms
just feel constantly down much of the time and can't figure out why,
be afraid to ask someone to get you to a doctor for a checkup.
you have to, just go by yourself.
be smart not to put it off.
IS SIMPLE MEDICATION TO HELP TREAT CHRONIC DEPRESSION
show that 90 percent of people suffering from depression respond
favorably to medication.
reason for depression has to do with
what is called the "BLAME GAME"
"blame game" is a phrase used
describe teenagers who blame themselves
for everything that goes wrong in their family
no matter how
obvious it is
they had nothing to do with it.
are notorious for doing this.
divorce to abuse;
from alcohol problems to adoption;
from drug problems in the family
to getting yelled at all the time,
it is always their fault.
would never stop and think that maybe,
was not their fault,
rather someone elses.
"blame game", however, is only half the problem when it comes
other half has to do with what is called BLENDING. It is this BLENDING
that can cause serious depression in an individual.
is when people combine the bad things that happen to them in their family
the amount of value they already have as a person.
it wasn't for me, my parents wouldn't be divorced. I really
messed things up. What an idiot I am."
I wasn't such a bad kid, my father wouldn't beat me the way he
does. I can't do anything right."
all "my" fault.
a person keeps putting him/her self down like this, one doesn't have
to be a rocket scientist to understand just how much of a negative impact
it can have on a person. Any first grader can add 1 + 1:
parents got a divorce
must be all my fault
be a bad person.
who constantly beats him/herself down like this is bound to get depressed
sooner or later
A SUGGESTION FOR ALL YOU
you people who play the BLAME GAME,
you need to understand that there are
two types of problems
people have in this world
and with you being a “people,”
you’re no exception. They are...
YOU HAVE control over
problems YOU DON’T have control over.
the problems you DO have control over,
getting your homework done on time,
getting to school or work on time, etc.,
you need to take care of business.
Simple as that.
are your problems
it is you who
needs to deal with them.
For the problems
have control over,
problems like divorce,
drug or alcohol use in the family,
verbal or physical abuse, etc.,
to PUT THEM ASIDE
GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
these problems that
HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU,
will be on your back
effect just about everything you do in life.
don’t believe it now,
believe it when you see it.
Unfortunately, it will be too late.
give you a suggestion as
to how you can get the problems you have
no control over
off of your back:
take a pencil or pen and a piece of paper.
write down everything
that is bothering you now.
I mean everything.
Problems in school, problems with parents,
problems with girl or boy friend, etc..
No matter how small, write it down.
you do this,
take a look at each problem separately.
When you do,
put a “C” next to the problems
you have control over
and a “NC”
next to the problems
you have NO control over.
When you’re done,
look at the list one problem at a time.
See the problems with the “NC” next to it?
Take your pen and put a line through it.
Because they are ones you have no control over.
ones that have nothing to do with you but rather other people; people
who may even be displacing their own personal problems onto to you.
the bottom line to depression caused by THE BLAME GAME. That is...
PEOPLE'S PROBLEMS BECOME YOURS.
One can’t help but be depressed when this
see the problems that are left;
the ones with the “C” next to them?
Take care of business.
Those are the ones you should truly be concerned about.
When you can separate the
from the ones you
DON’T HAVE CONTROL over
without using a piece of paper,
I mean, doing it automatically in your mind,
then you know you’ve got it.
matter what the cause of depression may be, one thing is for sure:
DO GET BETTER IN LIFE
WORK HARD TO SOLVE
THAT ARE CAUSING YOUR DEPRESSION
TO SEE THE RESULTS.
means you must ask for help from someone.
people turn to family members for help. Others turn to friends or teachers.
Still others seek out God.
matter who makes you feel comfortable, get to someone as soon as possible.
you make the effort to work on your problems,
life will get better.
not everybody believes this.
are those who feel life can never get better for them.
think nothing will ever change for them no matter what they do in their
Wilson certainly felt this way.
true story of Elinore Wilson is a good example of this.
Wilson was a struggling actress back in the 1940s. She wanted nothing
more than to be a star,
auditioned for every part that came her way, no matter how small it
was. She did get some bit parts here and there, but never landed the
role that would put her name up in lights.
lack of progress in her career made her frustrated, angry, and
finally seriously depressed. When drinking and drugs didn't help,
she decided to end it all.
day, Elinore trudged up to the top floor of a 40-story building in New
out onto the roof,
jumped off the edge,
to her death,
days later, her agent received a phone call from a huge production company.
The studio wanted Elinore to take the lead role in what would have been
a major motion picture.
the agent received the script, he was shocked at what he read.
see, the role Elinore would have played was of a woman who was so depressed
about her life that she climbed to the top of a building in New York
City, walked onto the roof, and jumped off the edge, falling to her
death, committing suicide.
Elinore sought the help she needed to work on her depression
had she stuck around long enough to see the results,
would have been the star she always had wanted to be.
Elinore played out her role too soon.
TO THINK ABOUT
your best friend
you try to help him/her deal with it ?
would you do?
you were constantly depressed,
you try to help yourself deal with it ?
would you do?
you do anything different for yourself than you would do for your
help with your depression?
Maybe we can help.
the author about any questions
or comments you may have
about your experiences
regarding this topic.
information may be
posted on this site
may be of some help
to other teens.
e-mails are strictly confidential.
will be used.
this web site, teenage issues and problems
such as pregnancy, suicide, depression,
teen sex and abstinence, divorce and family
problems along with making the right choices
in life are discussed.